Gee, apparently I did want to talk about Sex.
December 05, 2005 2:09 a.m.

hmmmm maybe that's just me.

Though, Carrie and I have discussed this issue before. Apparently, there are girls who lay perfectly still in bed, which confuses the hell out of both of us.

She described it perfectly so I shall use her words. When you are so excited that it feels like you have fire under your skin, how can you not move and writhe?

mmmmmm and when you feel that intensity building, and building, taking over you, ...that exhilaration, that anticipation, knowing how good that final outcome is and doing anything and everything to get there.

Sex is primal. It isn't cute. it isn't pretty. It is sweaty and dirty. if you don't finish with your face flushed and your hair a mess, as you lay in a puddle of your former self, panting, desperately trying to catch your breath, than you are doing it wrong. I have written about this before, but I think it's interesting what people consider "Sex". oral sex is apparently, not sex. ...again with the notion, that they must be doing it wrong.

I was discussing with The Boyfriend the other night how we live in a world where 9 times out of 10 if a man has sex, he's going to have an orgasm, but if I remember correctly, it's about half that number for women.

And the point I was making with him is that if women were better at pleasing themselves, and were much more open about exploring their on sexuality, they wouldn't have to explore it with men who have no desire to meet their needs.

I am very good at pleasing myself; I don't need a man to please me. However, I do greatly enjoy being with a man who can please me better than I can please myself.

If women would learn to satisfy their own needs they wouldn't have to 'give it up' every time they "wanted a piece" or were curious, or horny, and have a sexual experience which may or may not be enjoyable.

And if women would stop screwing men who didn't give a shit about their needs....maybe they would realize that the only way they will have a shot with a woman is to actually learn how to please her, and make the attempt to please her. ....because as long as what they are doing is working, they have no need to change.

Also, this goes ~cough, no pun intended~ hand in hand with the idea of women learning themselves better. Most people can't read minds, and the only way your partner will know what you like....Is If You Tell Them! Say, "hey baby, that right there isn't working for me,....but if you do it like this,....god that drives me crazy". ...or "note, this spot right here that I have your finger pressed against, it is my clit/g spot." ...boys have a general idea about those things, but women differ quite a bit from one for the next. Realisticly, what works for me won't work for someone else. Me? I have an especially easily accessible G spot (it does come with some baggage, so don't be too jealous). Mine is just straight in, where as with most women, you have to hunt a bit for it. However, I have the most hidden clit on the face of the earth, and it requires alot of direct pressure.

The point is, we need to learn things about ourselves and teach our partners how to please us. There's nothing embarrassing about it. If he's offended (And well this works for guys too,...girls need to learn to work you also!) (...ahem, not that this is a solely hetero-entry, it works for everyone)

if the person you are with is offended by your telling them how to work your body, then they are not someone you want to be having sex with in the first place. You're partner should want to please you!