The Christian guy
May 20, 2003 1:52 p.m.

So I am an absolutely fickle girl. I didn’t call the Irish guy because I found reasons to not do it. I was going to call him even though I couldn't go see the movie with him. I was going to a party at Wabash and I would have had to leave the theater to go directly to the party, I figured that was not the way to do it. Figured I'd call him when I got back the next day.

But alas, I am now completely enamored with a guy I met at the party.

No this is not like the situation with the Wabash guy. and I've generally avoided chasing another guy from that circle of friends because I didn't want to seem like I was jumping from one guy to the next.

But I'm enamored with this one for all the right reasons.

1. We'll get the lame ones out of the way first. He's very attractive and sexy as hell (especially his voice)

2. He is an absolute gentleman. And I mean this in every sense of the way. He was opening doors for me and escorting me places and he got me a better blanket when I was cold. I usually hate that sort of thing because it seems like the guy is doing it just because I'm a girl and that's what he's supposed to be doing. but with him it seemed like it was doing because he wanted to do it for me! My friend Libby (who I took to the party) told me that chivalry is good because it shows the male is wanting to take care of you and that she's convinced that I have a personality type to not want it any other way.

3. He graduated from college with a degree in graphic design. Meaning he's an artist and (while I don't know how old he is) he's not a 19 year old freshman. This also makes him much more mature in the good sense.

4. He's a good Christian boy. He was introduced to me as a good Catholic boy...which because I'm not Catholic might be an issue....but I'm taking this one step at a time. He told me he knew who the Normals are because he works at The Carpenter's Son which is a Christian bookstore that his parents own.

5. He's very intelligent. I was present when he got in a slight religious debate with someone and whether I agreed with what he had to say (I honestly don't know) the fact that he was so smartly and articulate when he defended his position, especially in a minimalist way, I was really impressed.

6. We were able to converse very well. We were having a wonderful conversation throughout the night....one of those conversations where we were off alone talking and if someone else came over and joined us we stopped that conversation, had another with the other person (sometimes for quite a long time) but as soon as that person left we picked right up with the conversation we had been previously having.

7. He seemed very interested in what I had to say. He asked me questions about some rather seriously issues in my life (i.e. what am I doing with my life) and seems generally interested in what I had to say and gave me advice and feedback. He even asked me the infamous "What are you thinking" question a few times, and I would often say "I don't know" and he would respond "yes you do". and if you know me at all you know that I think all the time, and if I say I don't know what I'm thinking about it means that I'm thinking about so much and none of it seems to be piecing together to make any sense and that's why I don't know.

8. He also kept an eye out for me and my friend Libby at the party. I almost have my first regret in life, at that would be taking her to this party. ..but "forget regret" I can't do anything about it now...so I should forget about it. ...but she got really drunk and was really putting herself in some unsafe situations even if she doesn't want to admit it. He kept an eye on her and me and helped me in looking out for her and getting her out of the situation and the later defended me to her. Then....later on when she ran off to be with the guy I pulled her away from he helped me look for her (got me the blanket). At first it seems like she was being escorted off by 3 guys, one of which was insanely creepy, but it did end up being that she was going off with the one guy and to the other guy's apt. (the creepy guy ended up taking off). But since the guy I'm enamored with (I'm gonna call him the Christian guy) is diabetic he was needing to eat something the guy who's apartment it was escorted us there but refused to let ups out of the living room because of (as he explained) fraternity rules and mason rules. He and the Christian guy proceeded to debate the religious and moral implications of the situation....i.e. his allowing his frat brother to engage in sexual activities with a girl is way too intoxicated to know better....the fact that my friend wanted to do it was irrelevant. The guy whose apt it was saying he was planning on being a minister after college. This is what bought on the relgious debate. The Christian guy asked him how as a future minister he could allow this situation to go on in his house. The Christian guy was telling him that it is our jobs as friends to keep our friends from sinning. ....The things the Christian guy said about lust were sort of worrisome to me because I plan on being very adventurous in bed once I'm married and I need a husband who is into the same....certain practices could be considered as lustful...but if they are with your significant other I don't see a problem...but that's an issue for later debate.

Before I left yesterday I went up and thanked him for being such a wonderful gentleman in the whole situation and that I was still weirded out by (which I was) and that I wanted to talk to him more....I was kinda nervous about being this up to him ...and he said he had my email address from the email about the party.

I hope he contacts me. If he doesn't I don't know if I should attempt to contact him. ...and if I decided to do that, how long do I wait? And what if his has a girlfriend? I mean he might have been talking with me just because I was interesting to talk to and he was being social and all the gentlemanly things he did for me he might have done just because he is a gentleman, not because he had any interest in me.

He's been friends with my friend John forever, maybe I should ask him about it. ...We'll see. that won't be until after I haven't heard from the guy and I'll give him a substantial length of time to contact me. and meanwhile what I do about to Irish guy? If I don't here from the Christian guy in a short while call up the Irish guy to see the Matrix?

Anyway, I'm gonna go get some lunch. ...it's just I can't stop thinking about this guy, he's so wonderful ....whenever I think back upon T for a test I think "T, yeah that guy who gave me mixed signals and moved away without telling me...fuck him".

anyway, I'm starving, time for lunch.